Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Gender Variant, Queer
& Questioning/Uncertain Identities:
I have spent all of my career working with the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community. My specialty throughout my
entire career has been to help LGBT, HIV
impacted and questioning youth and adults. I have worked with primarily with
youth and adults who have had many difficult emotional, psychological and mental
health problems, many of which you could never believe. I've seen it all! Well,
okay, not everything, but down right close to it! I am passionate about working
with the LGBT community and have a lot of knowledge and resources at my
disposal. I am able to help with transitioning processes and all issues relevant
to the LGBT community.
my extensive background in this area, I am used as a resource in teaching many
of my colleagues how to work more effectively with sexual/gender minority
communities. I have trained police officers, probation officers, social workers,
students, hospital workers, shelter and group home staff, parents, etc. about
the community as a whole and the specific needs of each subgroup. By the way,
for those transgendered folks reading this, yes I do specialize in working with
transgendered and intersexed people. I don't just throw in the "T". I have
served on the Los Angeles County Transgender Task
Force as the director of the Youth Subcommittee, produced outreach materials for
Transgendered Youth who are high risk or living on the streets. I have done a
lot of work with transgendered youth and adults and have
helped many folks
through various stages of their transitioning process. This is an area that I
have a lot of experience with. I have helped hundreds of folks explore their
sexuality, and related concerns, and have access to many
resources in this area.
there are so many areas that impact the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender
community, it is difficult to talk about everything on a webpage. What I want my
all of my "queer" clients to know is that in coming to see me, they are coming
to a safe space where they will be understood and working with someone who "gets
I wanted to be sure all of my LGBTQI
potential clients know that I do couples therapy for queer clients. I use a
feminist therapy perspective in working with all of my clients, FYI so I like to
focus on egalitarianism in relationships. I follow the model that was
established and used by the therapists at the Couple's Institute. It is a
developmental approach applied to couples therapy. To learn more about this
approach, check out this
that I provide to all of my couples. It will give you a good idea of what
couples counseling with me will be like. We can get through affairs, disrespect,
fighting, alternative family lifestyles of all types. For partners whose spouse
is struggling with sexual or gender identity issues, I can help you and your
partner talk through these issues. It may mean a lot of changes to your
relationship, but there is a lot of hope and growth that will come out of going
through this experience.
For women who are involved with a person of any
gender who is struggling with a gender issue (cross-dressing, transgender,
intersexed, transsexual, not sure...) I have a support group just for you! It is
a specialized support group; a place where you get to be where you are. You can
get information, express your feelings, learn about how other women are handling
these same issues with their partners,.... It is a place where YOU get to have
support. This is very important because you have to deal with a lot as your
partner/spouse/boyfriend or girlfriend struggles with these issues.
Significant Others Support Group (SOS):
Support group for women who have a
partner, spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, or significant other who is
struggling with ANY gender identity issues, such as cross-dressing,
transgender, transsexual, intersexed....
Parents of LGBT Youth :
For parents of children who
are gay, lesbian, bisexual,
questioning - or if you are questioning, I have worked with
sexual and gender identity
issues for over 20 years. I can help!
Be aware right up front, I
won't attempt to change your child's sexual or gender identity.
Your kid isn't sick, you are not bad parents, it isn't your fault,
and no one is crazy for being a member of a sexual minority group. I can
help deal with crises
related to a youth's sexual and/or gender exploration/identity, but I
will NOT try to make them into someone
more socially acceptable. I have a lot of families who have struggled
with issues concerning
spirituality, a child's identity, coping with an HIV infected child, educating youth about HIV
prevention, abuse and sexual or gender identity, hate crimes and issues
concerning runaway or throwaway youth. Contact
me - I CAN HELP! I will provide your family with a supportive
environment to explore the impact of a child's sexuality or gender
upon the family, friends, school, the future, etc. etc. etc. I know that there are many things to think
about when you discover your child's sexuality or gender preference. Let
me help you through the process to make things easier! Please keep
My goal in
working with families is to keep families together. There is nothing more
important than keeping a family strong and together, and there is nothing sadder
than a family who throws out their gay, lesbian or transgendered child. It is
always an honor when a family comes to work
with issues around the sexuality and gender of their child. I have a ton to
offer you! Even if the sexuality or gender identity of your child isn't the main
issue you would like to come to therapy for, because I have extensive experience
in this area, I can offer a supportive environment where your concerns are
understood and respected. I won't over-focus or under-focus on your child's
identity. A gay child is a whole person, not just a gay person.
a good family system, gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered youth's lives can
be terribly impacted. LGBT youth can be targets of hate crimes, discrimination,
social isolation, fear, religious persecution, political agendas, harassment at
school, on the job, etc. Many LGBT youth have problems with drugs, alcohol,
premature introduction to sexuality, don't learn to build healthy relationships,
may attempt suicide or get involved in survival sex if they don't have a
supportive family. In addition, LGBT youth are at high risk of being sexually
exploited by older adults or engage in violent relationships with peers.
Predators sense gay children's vulnerability and exploit this. A supportive family
can help a LGBT teen to navigate their identity in a positive way, so that they
will grow up leading a normal, healthy, and productive adult lives.
Did You Know... Facts About
illegal for all schools in California to discriminate against a child for their
sexual identity or gender identity. Schools are required to protect sexual
It is also illegal for teachers and other school personnel to
refer to a transgendered child by their birth sex and name if a child lives as
the opposite gender. It causes a significant safety issue for transgendered
children and promotes harassment.
lesbian, bisexual and transgendered teens are 3x more likely to attempt suicide
than other teens.
all completed teen suicides are committed by gay youth.
Transgendered teens are 3x more likely to attempt suicide than gay youth!
than 50% of all transgendered teens have attempted suicide.
largest population of homeless youth, 42%, are gay, lesbian, bisexual or
minority youth experience constant harassment at school, and teachers fail to
respond 97% of the time.
all public high school students hear homophobic comments from their peers
regularly, 53% report that they hear homophobic comments from their school
all sexual minority youth report that they experience severe isolation from
have reported that they have cut classes and skipped school because they felt
unsafe and threatened by peers at school.
than 20% of all school guidance counselors have received any training on serving
sexual minority youth. Two thirds of them harbor negative feelings towards
sexual minority youth.
all gay and lesbian adults have reported experiencing family violence as a
result of their sexual orientation.
minority youth are more likely to drop out of high school than any other
Homosexuals and women are the most frequent victims of hate crimes in the US.
Many people do not consider violence against women hate crimes, despite that a
huge number of crimes against women are directly related to their gender.
gay/lesbian youth reported suffering physical attacks because of their sexual
1 in 5
men were infected with HIV during their adolescence.
of all gay/lesbian youth use alcohol, 44-56% use other drugs. Many reported
being weekly users.
Approximately 3% of the general population has significant feelings of
discomfort about their gender, cross-dress, or are transsexuals. This means that
3 out of every 100 youth experience conflicts about their gender.
Gender-questioning youth are at a higher risk for unsafe sex and exposure to
sexually transmitted diseases.
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